cheaters never win???

there's a good chance that this will be the last qualifier i put in a post 'cause if you feel personally offended by something i say, i accept your apology since its prolly something you need to hear. if you think i'm wrong, you're very much entitiled to your opinion... start a blog and write about it, but do understand that i'm telling you what i've seen and done, not just once or twice but time after time after... you get the picture. if you disagree, please take advantage of the space below (comments) to let me know. if u agree, i'd like to know that as well... whew!!! (woo-sah), (relax, relate, release), (beathe, stretch, shake, let it go)... lol

cheating (read: the other woman) has SAVED many a relationship

there comes a point in every most relationships where things go awry; whether it be that the sex has become boring, you're tired of having the same conversation/argument over and over again, ur s.o. is no longer sufficiently attentive, you're tired of overlooking the fact that her head game sucks his dick is vienna-like (move to strike), ya'll are broke and they aren't doing enough about it, he's jealous, she's insecure, ... literally a million different things that could be wrong...

if it were a basketball game, the coach would call a timeout, bring the team over and chew their asses out, but alas, there are no timeouts in relationships... supposedly. you can't really say on a thursday night that "i need a break for a few days, i'll call u on monday" and expect not to have to answer a billion and one questions at the time and again when u get back (if the locks aren't changed). enter, for the sake of argument, let's just call her keisha. i work with her, i used to bang her back in the day, i met her at the club one night when i was a lil more than tipsy, she lives across the street, she's your homegirl and she knows FROM YOU that i know how to work the tongue/dick, she works the drive-thru at the local starbucks, doesn't matter who she is and how i met her... fact is, we're hooking up on a regular basis, as regular as i can make it without your ass getting all super-suspicious...

.................fast-forward................

by the time i've had my fun and keisha is no longer around, i'm better able to deal with you and your "stuff". my batteries have been re-charged, i found the attention i was craving and the itch has been adequately scratched, i thought she was pregnant and realized that i didn't really wanna risk losing what i had at home, she was crazy too and i'd just rather deal with your craziness than some whole new form of crazy... point is, i still love you and i have a different perspective on our issues, or at least i feel better equipped to tackle them. the fact that you only want sex a couple of times a month isn't as much an issue cause i've been getting served regularly for a while and could use a break.

the bottom line is... we're still together and i'm quite sure that had i not "called a timeout" i wouldn't have been able to deal so in essence, you owe keisha...

now what i won't cover here is the fact that i may be no good in the first place, even if i wasn't a cheater but definitely not now that i am... maybe some other time

was aretha thinking "i'm gonna kill 'em with this one" when she saw that hat in the store???