keeping it kinda real...

back from my superbowl sabbatical with a question... prompted by a conversation i recently had with a young lady...

THE SETUP

its reasonable to assume that while actively single, there are a couple of, if not several, people with whom we maintain some form of regular sex communication with. whether its a burgeoning relationship or just a friends with benefits type of arrangement, the "stable" is basically our group of people who we "kick it" with or "date"...

then an "other" begins to emerge as quite potentially a "significant other"... or better yet u meet a stranger and they are interesting enough to try the whole relationship thing with...

THE QUESTION

is it reasonable to expect that it may take some time to phase out the quasi-relationships based on how often we communicated with said stable members. keep it mind that this phasing out will likely entail lying to the new star player about the true nature of our "single" status...

is it more reasonable to expect tha any and all "inappropriate" conversations and dealing be put to an immediate end in deference to the possibility of a "real" relationship

BRING IT HOME

is it alright to "lie" to you while i handle my business on these other fronts or should i take the chance that you're the crazy rare chick who wants to know that i have a few things going but that i'm willing to slow down stop so WE can have a legitimate shot???