"independent woman", worn like a badge of honor
over the course of the past three generations or so, the idea that women, more specifically Black women, should strive to do for themselves has taken hold; the thought that "needing" or "depending on" a man was somehow equivalent to weakness...
songs champion the idea, "sister circles" meet and propagate it, mothers (and fathers) preach it to their adolescent daughters. "don't ever have to depend on a man", 'always make sure you have your own car, own house, own money', and eventually grown women take pride in achieving it and telling any and everybody that'll listen about it
herein lies the problem: that thinking is flawed. it's contrary to our design and detrimental to the very structure of the family. it's an idea that doesn't seem to be shared by any other culture, definitely not on such a significant portion of the populations of those cultures.
WOMEN DO NEED MEN... AND THEY SHOULD!!!
nevermind the fact that procreation is not possible without each sex, it's very difficult for a woman to raise a man. our very nature, our strengths and weaknesses lend themselves to dependence. we need each other, and we need to stop trying to convince ourselves otherwise...
it has become a self-fulfilling prophecy, and it needs to be laid to rest
#thatisall
